Now that I’m clear that it is impossible to find sustainable happiness outside of ourselves, I’ve been revisiting what I can do to make myself happy. Essentially, this means doing the things I love to do. So, I started singing again—for myself. And dancing, also for myself, though the occasional night out dancing with friends hasn’t been bad either. I joined a gym where I take yoga and Pilates classes to center myself and get those endorphins going. I have made a habit of grocery shopping at Whole Foods at least once a week and get a kick out of exploring the aisles and picking out great food to eat. I’m also developing a project, soon to be announced, which allows me to chat up with my friends while I ask for their advice and support.
My living room, the gym, the grocery store, anywhere with my friends—these are all my happy places. They are places I go to do the things that make me feel like me. And when I’m fully myself, I’m happy.
It’s not all that difficult to find your happy place. Just think of things you used to do that made you happy and places you used to go to do them. Then go to those places and do those things.